Intimacy and Unlimited Variations Regarding Sex

Like a rainbow, everyone is the same but different, with a thousand hues, blending and reblending with each other. Great sex can be that, so long as the central keystone and the very foundation itself involves one and only one word… INTIMACY!

Without this sacred word, this Rosetta Stone of love, sooner or later (usually sooner) the sex goes down, down, down, like a snowball that turns into an avalanche, going down a mountain at 1,000 miles per hour, crushing forests and towns in its wake and ending in the shame and pain and near poverty that divorce lawyers always bring with them, always!

So let’s dissect this universally underused word, intimacy! Intimacy means total and complete openness, without judgment or withholding of any kind whatsoever. Omit just one thought or desire out of fear or shyness, and it’s all gone. It’s like wanting to drive a Rolls Royce or Porsche that has a flat tire. It can’t be done!

So get the help you need. Buy books. Go to sex therapists or sex seminars. Talk to close friends. Do research as you are doing right now with “Outrageous Thinking,” the only site that goes beyond all others, it not only enlarges the envelope of sites, it actually changes the entire universe of them.

How? By demanding more of ourselves. And, as for this article ‘Sex’ on Intimacy goes, our motto might be none other than… "There's nothing more beautiful than the naked human body (male and female), in relatively good shape, not perfect at all, just good enough to arouse us, and no matter what age (over 18) he or she might be.”

So begin with “everything” mentioned above and the following list:

1. Get the books, “Taoist Secrets of Love, Cultivating Male Sexual Energy,” by Mantak Chia and “Healing Love Through the Tao, Cultivating Female Sexual Energy” by Mantak Chia and his wife, Maneewan Chia.
2. Shave each other’s pubic hair. Our sex organs are indeed very beautiful and delicious during oral sex.
3. Get some enjoyable sex tapes and films, not ones that portray sex as dirty. One with a great plot is “Basic Instinct,” featuring Sharon Stone as a novelist and Michael Douglas as a detective.
4. Explore some creative fantasies. Meet her at a bar with her wearing an overcoat and only lingerie underneath.
5. Have a fantasy night once a week or once a month for each partner. One night you do anything your partner wants and vice versa another night.
6. Make separate lists of what each wants ‘in’ and ‘out’ of the bedroom.
7. If you have kids, hire an overnight babysitter, and stay in a hotel.
8. Dress for what your partner likes, not what you like. After all, he/she is looking at you. You are not looking at yourself.

If you would like, send your tips (and please note if you want your name published) to ray@outrageousthinking.life.

Ciao- Uncle Ray-man

UNCOVERY

1.
Contemplation
Bang
a singularity
miracle of miracles
and 'you' exist.
A part of the expansion
a part of Heaven
from the Greek word Ouranos
a bang into an expansion.
You, here, now,
reading, listening
interpreting
thinking
feeling
imagining the unimaginable
that singularity then
your individuality now.
Alone among billions
each an earthbound star
eyes reflecting light
ears encompassing sound
voices expressing feeling
minds considering consciousness.
Extending
further and further
always
changing
this solitary eternal moment
of your existence.
Imagine
imagine
you existing
as stardust then
in human form now
with mindfulness
observing you.
Consider the purpose
(or even the non-purpose)
for we were born to contemplate this
at the moment of the singularity
to contemplate this
to come to know
what the Gatekeeper wants us to know.
11
Light
Atomic signals
light shining upon us
in us
through us
interpreting truth.
Kingdoms of OZ overthrown by Artificial Intelligence
DNA and death out of the closet
the grim reaper is worried
the homage is the homage to science.
Microscope and telescope the magic wands
the scientist is the prophet of our time
of this there is no doubt
and the Gatekeeper wants us to know
the Gatekeeper wants us to enter by this way.
Follow, follow, follow
along the way of imagining
not by discovery
but by uncovery
as the artichoke leaves uncover the heart
a simple finding of what is already there.
As like E=MC squared was always there
waiting, for big Al, the Man,
to uncover it for us to know
to uncover what already exists
so that we may marvel at the knowing.
Hubble vision is the contact lens
the micro is the macro on a computer screen
through all frequency time machines
and always in the becoming
the showing of miracles on a routine basis.
Yes, the miracle has become the mundane
(for this we could be found guilty)
losing it all in the taking for granted
the way a lover loses his beloved
by taking her for granted.
The Light is the Rosetta Stone
the Light holds the wisdom of what we uncover
the Light is the way of deciphering the mystery
as Angels cradle galaxies in their hands
and the Gatekeeper smiles upon their creations.
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Destiny
This very moment
on a sunny ocean beach
in anticipation of expectant release
a child holds sand in a tiny hand.
Another moment
somnus black potentiality
pregnantly awaiting its singularity
like the wombed infant
remaining ready to go forth.
Bang!
destiny unfolds
a tiny hand and singularity respond
all flowing outward
ready to accomplish
its preordained place
(Its work)
of filling time and space.
Galaxies, stars, planets, earth,
you, I, and they,
this very moment decreed
for science tells us of the physicality.
Each grain to land
preordained
each planet meant to be
billions meant to breathe
at the moment of the singularity.
The Angels are smiling upon us.
The Gatekeeper wants us to enter by this way.